Spoken Words

There are some words or phrases that if said from the speakers point of view is not bad, for the speaker's self esteem.  However if you are the receiver of such words it can be devastating to your well being and self esteem.  Think about them.  Have you ever said anything that was hurtful?  Have you ever thought about something you said only to realize it is too late to take it back?  It is said that the tongue is sharper than a two-edge sword, and that is very true.

I'm right.  You're wrong.
Smile.  Don't you know how to do anything but frown?
You are rude, crude and abrupt.  Try to be nice.
Why are you so bitter?
Grow up!
You are so negative!  You need an attitude adjustment.
Can't you do anything right?
That was a stupid mistake!
Did you think before you opened your mouth and inserted your foot?
Why can't you be more like your (sister, brother, or whoever)
What is wrong with you?  Are you just stupid?
Stop crying only a baby cries!

We all say things out of anger or in the heat of the moment or in the middle of what might be a crisis to one person.  Sometimes, we don't realize we have just hurt someone by what we said.  It may have all been an innocent remark.(Well maybe not).  Can you be the type of person that goes back and says, "I'm sorry.  I was angry and I didn't mean what I said, or that wasn't exactly what I meant?  I know some people don't like the word, "I'm sorry."  If that is you, then ask to be forgiven, use words that are not objectionable to you.  Although you are suppose to be sincere and mean it from your heart.  "I apologize" always sounded so cold to me, but you can say, "Please forgive" or "Can you forgive me". 

How do you apologize to God when you have done something wrong?  We are to treat each other like we want to be treated.  We are to love each other as Christ loves us.  Are you living that way? 

I hope this posts makes sense.  It has been weighing heavily on my mind since last week.  Mostly because I overheard someone say, "I'm right.  You're wrong."  That always bothers me.  It has taken me a long time to learn to admit when I'm wrong, but no one is right 100% of the time, and there has only been one perfect person to ever walk this earth.  He sits at the right hand of God.  Do you know Him?  Don't wait until it is too late, the alternative is not going to be pleasant.

Hate - A very strong emotion

We fight the battle of good vs evil everyday. Some days we win and some days we lose. God is always there with us helping us to fight those battles and we walk away with scars that run very deep some times. I'm not talking evil as in villians, monsters, crooks, robbers and such. I'm talking about the battle within ourselves to do good instead of bad, to think good instead of bad, to love everyone and not have bad feelings towards others. Hate is a word I associate with bad or evil. I don't hate anyone, I don't love everyone like I should, like the bible dictates. I have a strong dislike for some people and it usually comes back to how I was treated by them or something that was done. I always try to forgive and forget. The forgiving part is not as hard as it used to be, but sometimes the forgetting part of what happened lingers endlessly. It's kind of like that darkness that sometimes tries to steal me from the world. I fear that one day the darkness will win and swallow me and I will cease to exist. Sometimes people cause you to have negative thoughts or cause emotions like hatred and anger to over take your thoughts, body and soul. I try to go to God when that starts to happen and sometimes, I just cry. Hate is something I have more towards myself than anyone else. I hate that I let myself get caught up in what other people think of me, my life. I hate the guilt I feel towards things that have happened in the past even though I've asked for God forgiveness, the forgetting doesn't stop. I hate that I let these thoughts and feelings sometimes take over my life. I hate that I don't trust people no matter what. I hate that I feel like I've let people down or failed them for one reason or another. I hate that I have let life harden my heart. I hate that I let my past interfere in my present and sometimes dictate the course of my future. I hate that I have no close friends and I hate that I let my anger and fear run them off. God will or has forgiven me, I just can't forgive myself or let the emotions go. May God bless you all. Love, L

Defeating The Devil

All my life I've been taught to stand up for what I believe in and for myself. That has always meant to me, to fight. If someone says something bad about you or someone close to you, take a stand and fight back. Someone wise just pointed out to me that I'm letting the devil win. Every time, I respond back against "my so called enemies", I'm letting the devil rob me of my christian values, and I'm helping the devil to destroy. That is not what I have ever intended to do. It hurts when someone that is suppose to be close and be your friend, says something bad about you, your spouse, your children or some one else in your immediate family. I apologize from the bottom of my heart and hope that anyone that I have offended or hurt by my retaliation remarks will forgive me. I will be praying for God's forgiveness as well.

Mark 11:25 “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.

I try to stay in the word of God, but I lose that battle more than I win. In the last month, I have discovered that the only thing that matters is what is in my heart that God sees, not what others think or feel about me. May God Bless you all. With all my heart, L